Monday, February 28, 2011

Is Dysfunction Hurtful or Helpful?

I’ve given a lot of thought to dysfunction lately because it seems life is full of it and I’m learning we all have it. None of us are exempt from it it’s just part of living in a sinful world.

I have found that people respond to dysfunction very differently. Some appear to handle it much easier than others. For me, I’ve come to perceive it as a teacher a teacher of life perhaps. You’ve heard of the show “What Not to Wear?” Dysfunction teaches me “What Not to Do!” I don’t want to act this way or that way. I don’t want to do such in such because that will lead me down the wrong path. I don’t want to act too hastily because I’ll be more miserable in the long run. I don’t want to exclude people who are different than I am lest I miss out on a precious friendship

I think the idea is to channel the dysfunction in such a way that it’s helpful and not hurtful for example, my son has multiple disabilities. This isn’t something he asked for, but it is certainly the hand he was dealt. We could have wallowed in self-pity and been miserable, but instead we set the standards high for our son. We have always believed he could do anything and that God has a special plan for him. This enthusiasm and faith in an incredible God planted our feet steadfast on a journey I wouldn’t trade for the world. Against all odds, our son graduated from high school with his diploma, he has inspired me to teach others with disabilities, and I have learned nothing is impossible with God. He has also opened my eyes to a different world that people don’t all fit into a cookie-cutter lifestyle. I am able to extend empathy and love to a group of people I would have most likely dismissed as lazy, unmotivated, and welfare dependent vagabonds. God has taken dysfunction and turned it into grace, mercy, and a much more accepting heart now that’s helpful and not hurtful.

I could give you example after example of how God has transformed the dysfunction in my life into ways to glorify Him more, but I think you get the point we are constantly faced with choices. We can choose to feel sorry for ourselves, or we can allow God to use our difficult circumstances to mold and shape us into a usable vessel to further His Kingdom.

Does this mean I never suffer?? Hello reality check!! I have suffered greatly, but I have also experienced the ultimate joy as God has lifted me from despair and transformed my heart a heart that loves more, believes more, and accepts more.

I recently read a quote that reads like this: “If life hands you lemons make orange juice and others will stand in awe as to how you did it.” I love that because with God ALL things are possible. He gives us unconditional love in a world where strings are attached, He gives us hope in a world that offers no hope, and He gave us His Son, so we can be cleansed of our sinful ways and live an eternity with Him.

So, the next time you think of all the dysfunction in your life look for the good that can come from all of it. If you’re unable to wade through the muck to find it, ask God for His help He wants to take you and transform you too. He wants to take your trials and dysfunction and teach you great things! Let Him take that which is hurtful in your life and turn it into something that is helpful not only for you, but those who have the privilege of being graced by your presence.

Blessings,

Marisa








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1 comment:

Scott said...

I can't improve on that blog, Marisa. You said it all. What I will say is how wonderfully different my life has been with your family in it. The 10-15 pounds and all those rolls/cookies/soup at your Anderson University restaurant were well worth it!