Friday, May 20, 2011

Care Enough to Confront

Okay, I’ve learned today that there are times I really struggle with the command to do all things without griping or complaining. For the most part, I’m fairly even keel. It truly takes a lot to get a rise out of me. I attribute that to a lot of prayer, healthy eating, daily yoga, and the most wonderful family and friends ☺

But, today I got bent out of shape and I believe, with good reason. I don’t want to go into what caused the ripple, but I would like to say it felt good to say, “I’m not happy about this!” My assistant referred to it as …I mentally threw up. She went on to say that sometimes we need to “throw up” in order to feel better.

I would like to emphasize that I don’t think it’s in our best interest to allow our feathers to get ruffled too often. Persistent “regurgitation” indicates we have a serious problem. However, allowing everything we’re passionate about to roll off our shoulders leads to an eventual crashing and burning at the bottom. Sooner or later it will come out and often when it does, we either devastate ourselves or others.

I liken it to a volcano. I remember my dad sharing with me as a child that volcanoes need to erupt now and then to release pressure from the core of the earth. If this pressure isn’t allowed to escape, our whole earth could explode. I found that fascinating! Something I deemed as extraordinarily dangerous is actually life-saving. God doesn’t make mistakes.

Just like volcanoes, we need to be able to vent periodically so we don’t “explode” and create irrevocable damage.

So in a nutshell, I do think it’s important to not gripe and complain about every little thing and in all things give thanks. I also believe God understands when we need to “let off some steam” to protect others and ourselves from injustices.

The next time we need to assertively confront another person, let's not put it off until we're ready to explode and let’s try to season our words with love. Yes, it felt good to say, “I'm not happy about this!” But, it truly felt better to come to a resolution with greater trust and understanding and this can only happen with an immediate, honest, open interchange orchestrated by God.

Care enough to confront!


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